Be Do Have model: The Definitive Guide
Be Do Have model
The Definitive Guide
Have you ever wondered why some people seem to achieve anything they set their mind to? Part of it is because of dedication but a big part of it is due to having the correct attitude. And one of the best ways to get this attitude is by adhering to the Be Do Have model of thinking.
In this article, I am going to explain the Be Do Have model in detail.
The key takeaways from this article will be:
- Full comprehension of the Be Do Have model
- Steps for using the model
- How to successfully use it for coaching clients
- Importance and benefits of the Be Do Have the mentality
So, without further ado, let’s get to it!
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Chapter 1
Basics of the Be Do Have model
Chapter 2
The Importance and Benefits of the Be Do Have mentality
Chapter 3
Using steps of the Be Do Have model for coaching
Chapter 4
Limitations of the model
Chapter 1:
Basics of the Be Do Have model
In this chapter, I will give you the basics yet detailed knowledge of all that you need to know about the Be Do Have model. You will also understand the major differences between having an “influence” vs behaving with “authority”. The Be Do Have model deals specifically with the former rather than the latter but you will understand the relevance of that as well.
So, buckle up!
What is the Be Do Have model and what does it mean?
In his book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Steven Covey presented the Be-Do-Have concept to the general public decades ago. The concept is straightforward:
We reach our intended aim by asking the following three questions in the given precise order;
- Who do I need to be in order to accomplish this goal?
- What do I need to do in order to accomplish this goal?
- What do I need to have in order to accomplish this goal?
Because it influences your state of being, the Be question must be posed first. Influence is based on who you are rather than what you have or do. In short, the model urges everyone to lead by example and start to embody what you want others to do. Be-do-have is a mindset regularly recommended for people who want success in achieving their biggest goals.
Surprisingly, the Be-Do-Have paradigm isn't employed very often. Instead, the Do-Have-Be approach is used in most cultures. In other words, if we undertake (DO) such-and-such thing, – we will enhance (HAVE) what we want and so BE successful.
Other leaders use the Have-Do-Be approach, which can be summarized as follows:
When I have the time, money, and support that I require, I will be able to do the things that will enable me to be who I want to be. Sounds familiar? And this approach works for a lot of people.
“Well if the Have-Do-Be approach is working, why do I need to promote a Be-Do-Have mentality, Sai?”
Well simply put, this mentality will take one much further than any other approach. Also, we now live in an age where people relate to people who lead by example rather than being autocratic. So, if one is able to embody the Be-Do-Have approach, they will surely go further in whichever goals they undertake. I can say this from personal experience.
Let me try to illustrate the same in another way:
To try to advance in life, there are three typical methods. One of them actually does the job.
They'll be known as:
- The Victim-mentality - the one who lacks to take action because they think they don’t “have” what is needed to achieve their goals
- The Worker-mentality- the one who focuses on working a lot to achieve their goals but is never satisfied of what they have
- The Winner-mentality- this is the correct Be Do Have mentality which focuses on being extraordinary to do and have extraordinary lives
- The victim sets up their life in the HAVE DO BE hierarchy
They assert, "I'll DO the things I've always wanted to do, and then I'll BE happy and successful when I HAVE the time, money, and support. I don't yet HAVE, which is the issue. I would undoubtedly be just as successful as that person if I had what they possessed, but I don't, thus I'm not.” Before they may advance in life, the victim is constantly waiting for the outside world to alter.
- DO HAVE BE is the focus of the worker
"The more I DO, the more I'll HAVE," they claim, “I'll be happier if I have more things. The issue is that no matter how much I accomplish, there is always more to accomplish and more to accomplish. I am motivated, busy, and exhausted because what I do defines who I am. I work harder because the more I have, the more I stand to lose. Being happy never happens because we all understand that there is no correlation between having more stuff and being happier.”
- The winner lives considerably differently than the losers: BE DO HAVE
They assert, "It is not what I must HAVE before I can begin, nor is it the task I must DO, but who I must BE? What sort of individual would have access to the outcomes I desire? What would I be doing if I were that kind of person? Once one decides on what they want to become, the action needed to make it happen comes much faster and easily.
The only lifestyle that is effective is Be Do Have, which is also the rarest and most abstract of the three.
Who is it best suited for?
“So then Sai, who is this approach best suited for?”
I think that there isn’t one set answer for this but some of the broader categories that I have seen this model work wonders for are:
- Organization leaders (I mean anyone who is in some sort of leadership position in an organization and not just C-Suite people.)
- People who want to work on bettering their self esteem
- People who want to have a more positive approach towards life
- Anyone who wants to change their life to a more enriching one
In short, Be-Do-Have is for anyone and everyone. Since it is a mentality, it cannot be restricted to only certain types of individuals benefiting from it. It is a lifestyle change that we as coaches can help people implement to have a better approach towards life and level up.
Examples of Be Do Have model
I have some hypothetical situations where Be-Do-Have can be implemented. Let’s take a look!
- Mary aspires to be a best-selling novelist.
She'd have to think about what kind of individual excels in this sector first, according to this paradigm. Perhaps she comes to the conclusion that it's someone who is disciplined, focused, creative, innovative, and enthusiastic about what they do.
She'll then determine what she has to do in order to become that person. They should strengthen their discipline by writing a specified number of words per day. There are numerous exercises that can help you focus, as well as trainers that can teach you how to be more creative.
Finally, Mary can visualize the life of the individual who takes these exact behaviors and if she keeps doing the first two steps successfully, she will have what she wants.
- Matthew wants to be a fitness influencer
First off, Matthe will have to look around and understand what it means to be a fitness influencer and what other fitness influencer’s lives look like.
Matthew will then have to become fit as per societal norms. He will have to work on his physique and stick to a healthy diet. He will also have to actively reach out to audiences and establish himself as a person of authority/reliability in this field.
Once he does these two steps successfully, he will have the life he desires.
But in both these examples, there is a key focus on the steps of being and doing. Having is a by-product of the first two steps. One needs to remember that to have something, they need to be and do what aligns naturally with it. And this is only achieved by developing the correct mentality.
So, let’s look at how to develop the Be-Do-Have mentality, its uses, and why it is so important in the next chapter.
