Top 10 Must Read Books for Sex Coaches

10 Books for Every Sex Coach

It’s time to read more and increase your knowledge. You can choose which sex coaching books to read from this list of the top 10. Only a small number of novels have endured the test of time and the test of life.

There are several books on this topic that coaches can find useful. However, we will only go over the top 10 sex coaching books that you really must read below.

1.Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life

Simon Schuster released this book on March 3, 2015. In this now-classic read on the science of women’s sexuality, Emily Nagoski, a sex educator and former Kinsey Institute researcher, explores the ways we experience a pleasure. It’s a nonjudgmental examination of sexual desire, supported by scientific research and data. As Nagoski explains, an orgasm does not have to be elusive, and satisfying sex life is more than just what’s between the sheets.

Following are the two lessons that books contain:

• The first lesson in Dr Emily Nagoski’s essential, transformative book is that every woman has her own unique sexuality, similar to a fingerprint and that women differ more than men in our anatomy, sexual response mechanisms, and the way our bodies respond to the sexual world. As a result, we should never judge ourselves based on the experiences of others. Because women differ, which is natural.

• The second lesson is that sex occurs in a context. And all of life’s complications influence the context surrounding a woman’s arousal, desire, and orgasm.

2. She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

Author Ian Kerner first published it in 2004. When it was first published in 2004, “She Comes First” was chosen by Amazon editors as one of the best books of the year. Much more importantly, a “New York Times” review dubbed it “the Encyclopedia Britannica of the clitoris.”

It’s entertaining, informative, and simple to read. “She Comes First” is a virtual encyclopaedia of female pleasure, depicting techniques that demonstrate why sex is enjoyable for both partners. To make a long story short, concentrate on the act of oral stimulation.

And in order to do so, you must first learn two things.

• The highly complex anatomy of the clitoris comes first. Which has up to ten different parts and 8,000 nerve fibers. The head, the G-spot, the public mound, the front commissure, the frenulum, the inner lips, the vaginal entrance, the fourchette, the perineum, and the anus are all examples.
• Second, there are three acts to the drama of female sexual arousal!

Important Takeaways from “She Comes First”

1. Cunnilingus Is Better Than Sex For Women

2. Female Sexual Arousal Has Three Stages

3. Never Forget These Three Promises

3. Principles and Practice of Sex Therapy

This book was first published on March 17, 2014. This widely used clinical reference and text—now significantly updated with 75% new material reflecting therapeutic advances, diagnostic changes, and expanded coverage of sexual minority groups—addresses sexual problems and their treatment comprehensively. Prominent authors weave theory, research, and clinical considerations together. 

Detailed case studies demonstrate the assessment and intervention process with individuals and couples across the lifespan, with a focus on gender-related, cultural, and health concerns. The book includes an integrative introduction and conclusion, as well as informative editorial commentary at the start of each chapter.

Zucker believes in and promotes the widely debunked “autogynephilia” theory in his chapter. He also believes that some children should be subjected to gender “conversion therapy” in order to encourage them to stop engaging in “gender non-conforming” behaviours and feelings. 

He represents a clinical approach to working with gender-creative youth that, thankfully, is being exposed for the outdated and cruel philosophy that it is.

4. Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire

The book’s initial release date was November 27, 2018. Focusing on life outside of the bedroom, psychologist and sex researcher Lori A. Brotto takes a compassionate look at the different reasons we might suffer from various sexual difficulties. The most common yet somehow least talked about among them: is a lack of interest. Brotto offers tools, in the form of easy exercises, for increasing desire and pleasure.

Brotto’s first book, written for a non-academic audience, provides a career’s worth of advice on how the “15 to 31 percent of women experiencing lasting and distressing sexual complaints,” such as:

• low desire
• satisfaction
• genital pain

These things can “explore [how] to make sex fabulous and fulfilling again.” She begins with a brief history of the diagnosis and treatment of female sexual dysfunction, as well as an overview of the various therapies commonly used to treat sexual dysfunction.

Based on the premise that a satisfying sexual response is not a reflex and that two-way communication between brain and body is necessary for sexual response.

This guide includes several mindfulness exercises as well as a list of resources that “have been tested, critiqued, revised, tweaked, and tested again in hundreds of women.” Although the book begins slowly, it is a practical and useful resource for readers who want to try Brotto’s approach of cultivating mindfulness as a therapy for sexual dysfunction.

5. Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life

Da Capo Lifelong Books released this book on July 10, 2018. Based on the most comprehensive scientific survey ever conducted, a leading expert on human sexuality and author of the blog Sex and Psychology offers an unprecedented look at sexual fantasy.

What do Americans truly desire in terms of sex? Is it possible for us to obtain what we desire? Justin J. Lehmiller, the author of the popular blog Sex and Psychology and one of the country’s leading experts on human sexuality, has made it his career goal to answer these questions.

He recently completed the largest and most comprehensive scientific survey of Americans’ sexual fantasies ever conducted, a two-year study involving over 4,000 Americans from all walks of life and answering questions of unusual scope.

We would feel:

• less distress
• anxiety
• shame about our own sexual fantasies.

Finally, by breaking down barriers to discussing sexual fantasies and allowing them to become a part of readers’ sexual realities, this book will help readers improve their sex lives and maintain more satisfying relationships and marriages in the future.

6. Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship

St. Martin’s Press published this book on February 13, 2018. Psychiatrist Stephen Snyder believes that mindfulness is the most powerful turn-on and that sexual narcissism is not only acceptable but also necessary. This appears to be a novel approach to sustaining passion in a long-term relationship. But, whether you’ve been married for twenty years or are in a swipe-right chapter, Snyder believes that understanding our sexual selves is the essence of good—rewarding, memorable, impassioned—sex.

According to Kinsey Institute research, 25% of American women in heterosexual relationships are extremely concerned about their sex lives. There is no shortage of books on sex techniques these days. However, that is not what the majority of people are interested in. What they really want is:

• To have great sex in a committed relationship, in which case all of your technical knowledge will be useless. 
• To do so, you must first understand how sexual feelings work, what rules they follow, and how they connect to the rest of who you are.

Over 1,500 individuals and couples have benefited from Dr Stephen Snyder’s one-of-a-kind approach to overcoming the erotic challenges of long-term relationships. Love Worth Making will help people of all ages and backgrounds master. 

The erotic challenges:

• of long-term relationships, 
• understand their sexual feelings, and 
• enjoy them for life by combining the latest research on human sexuality with compelling stories from his 30 years of experience working with over 1,500 individuals and couples.

7. Sex for One: The Joy of Self-loving

Harmony first published this book on March 12, 1996. If you like sex educator Betty Dodson or enjoy masturbation, this book is for you. While many sex books focus on partnered sex, this is an unapologetic and direct guide to celebrating and improving sex for one.

Dr Dodson explains:

• why masturbation is sexually and spiritually fulfilling for both men and women?
• How can anyone learn to make love alone without feelings of guilt or loneliness?

Sharing masturbation is not only the safest sex, but it can also be a sensual treat for couples who want to learn more about each other’s sexual responses.

In confronting one of our last and most deeply ingrained:

• taboos
• masturbation
• noted sex expert
• pro-sex feminist 

Betty Dodson, PhD removes the shame from self-love by creating a simple and appealing guidebook that reveals masturbation as a satisfying, vital form of sexual expression.

8. Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex

This book was published on September 15, 2020, by Beacon Press. What exactly is sexual attraction, and what is it like to go through life without it? What does asexuality reveal about consent, compromise, and societal structures? This extremely accessible guide to asexuality demonstrates that the issues that aces face—confusion about sexual activity, the intersection of sexuality and identity, navigating different needs in relationships—are conflicts that we all face as we move through life.

ACE invites all readers to consider big-picture issues through the lens of asexuality because asexuality touches our world in every place where sexuality touches our world. Our society is also sexist. We believe that everyone desires sex and is obsessed with sexual attraction. 

This book investigates how the ace perspective can teach us about :

• desire
• identity
• and what it means to live in this world rather than experience it.

9. The Great Sex Rescue

The publication date of this book is March 2, 2021, by Baker Books. Were you raised in a Christian home? Based on an in-depth survey of 22,000 Christian women, this book examines how your background influences your sex life and how to develop a sex life that feels biblically based while also being mutual, intimate, and passionate.

The Great Sex Rescue, based on a groundbreaking in-depth survey of 22,000 Christian women, reveals the secrets to why some marriages thrive while others fail. Women have grown up with messages about sex that make them feel dirty, used, or invisible, while men have been sold such a cheapened version of sex that they have no idea what they’re missing. 

The Great Sex Rescue hopes to change all of that by promoting a truly biblical view of sex in which:

• mutuality
• intimacy
• passion reigns supreme.

10. The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse, 3rd Edition

Newly revised and updated (3rd) Edition, William Morrow/HarperCollins, 2012, provides survivors and their partners with a comprehensive healing programme that goes beyond traditional sex therapy.

This is a difficult—but immensely gentle and helpful—read for anyone struggling with sex and intimacy after abuse, presented almost as a step-by-step guidebook. It’s also a must-read for the partners of sexual abuse survivors.

The Sexual Healing Journey assists survivors in:

• recognise the sexual effects of abuse

• identify the sexual effects of abuse

• create a positive meaning for sex 

• develop a healthy sexual self-concept 

• gain control over upsetting automatic reactions to touch and sex 

• stop negative sexual behaviours 

• improve intimacy with a partner 

• learn a new approach to touch and sex 

• resolve sexual functioning concerns